Interesting

“ Chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken". -Warren Buffet

Well Said

One of the happiest days of my life.

It is about discrimination, really it's that simple

I come from a state that had on the books until the late 90's a law that stated that whites and blacks could not marry. It was a law that was not enforced anymore but none the less it had never been removed until the late 1990's. I also come from a state that saw three little girls blown up in a church and dogs let loose on people. It is hard for me to know what is being said outside the state about the Prop 8 campaign, but I will tell you it has gotten pretty nasty. No dogs have been let loose, not fire hoses opened up, but people have been physically attacked and verbally abused, and some how the Yes on 8 campaign has made this be about children. Really of you look at the basics of it all it's about one group of people wanting to discriminate against another group of people and that is a very very very slippery slope people. I am scared for my daughter and I am scared for my country.

My Heart

Our Ceremony

The wedding was amazing. The perfect day with friends and family. I just thought I would share our ceremony with folks:

Officiant:

We are here today to take advantage of time. Not just the time that we have to enjoy each other, something that can be fleeting because of carelessness or fate. But this unique time in California when the words Marnie and Ramsey are about to say are recognized, not just as true, but with a legal force. They stand before us in celebration, saying, in essence, “Welcome to our marriage.” And our presence tells them that they are, in fact, loved by many.

These two people have already started a life together. They have already weathered the promises of traditional vows. Sickness and health. Richer and poorer. Instead, we can talk about the realities of love. When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. That is impossible. It is even a disservice to pretend it is possible. Yet that is what most of us demand. We have such little faith in the ebb and flow of life and of love and of relationships.

We leap forward at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb, for we are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanence, on duration, on continuity. But the only continuity possible in life, as in love, is in growth, in fluidity and in freedom.

I speak now to Marnie and Ramsey and ask them to have trust and faith in each other. They must recognize that they are super heroes to each other. Each with powerful strengths, and hidden weaknesses. And they must use that strength wisely and, against all instinct, share their weaknesses openly. They must hold their own, and the other’s, heart with tenderness.

I speak also to Lucy. Because this celebration recognizes that she has made this couple a family, one that extends to all of us, but one that lives in these three. Lucy, please hold up the rings?

Marnie:
May this ring forever be to you the symbol of my growing love.

Ramsey:
May this ring forever be to you the symbol of my growing love.

Officiant:
May these two find happiness in their union. May they live faithfully together, executing the vows they have made between them; and may they ever remain compassionate and encouraging, that their years may be rich with the joys of life, and their days be long upon the Earth.

I now pronounce you married.

Goin' to the Chapel and We're Gonna Get Married

Well really our backyard. Saturday is our wedding day. We have pulled it together in about a month. It's small. It's informal. It's a party, really, with a wedding attached. I am excited beyond belief, and needless to say a bit stressed out with last minute details. Most of all I am excited I get to marry the woman I love. To say to her in front of everyone that I commit to her in a way I never thought possible.

We went this AM to get the marriage license. I had no idea how excited I was going to be to get a marriage license but I was. Please if you would like to get us something for the big day you can give us the greatest gift possible for our family. Help keep Prop. 8 from passing so that we can stay married and that others like us can continue to get married. Just as a point of reference more than 11,000 have already gotten married in the state.

Here's how to donate: http://eqfed.org/equalityforall/fundraising/webb-695295

This Pretty Much Sums It Up

Why I like Obama for President:

The Choice: Comment: The New Yorker